Being a teenager is an exciting and tumultuous time, full of physical, emotional, and social changes. While it can be difficult to understand what is normal teen behavior versus concerning behavior, there are certain guidelines you can use to help make those distinctions. In this blog post, we’ll take a closer look at what normal teenage behavior looks like.
Why Teens Act Out
Teens often act out due to hormones or as a result of unresolved conflicts. Teenagers feel emotions more intensely than other age groups, causing them to react impulsively and erratically. That said, it is important to remember that this behavior is normal and not necessarily indicative of an underlying problem.
Normal Teen Behavior vs. Concerning Behavior
It’s important to remember that every teenager is unique and may not fit into the mold of “normal behavior” that society has created. That being said, there are certain signs you should watch out for when determining whether your teen’s behavior is normal or concerning.
Generally speaking, normal teen behavior includes spending time with friends, exploring new interests and hobbies, wanting more independence, engaging in healthy risk-taking behaviors (such as trying a new sport or taking on a leadership role), expressing emotions openly and honestly, asking questions about their identity (such as sexual orientation or religious beliefs), and challenging the status quo from time to time.
On the other hand, some signs that your teen’s behavior might be cause for concern include isolation from peers or family members; frequent outbursts of anger; lying or stealing; excessive drug or alcohol use; skipping school or activities without explanation; dramatic changes in eating habits; difficulty sleeping; sudden shifts in academic performance; lack of interest in previously enjoyed activities; neglecting personal hygiene; talking about self-harm or suicide; and exhibiting signs of depression such as loss of appetite, difficulty concentrating, feelings of worthlessness or hopelessness.
A Parent’s Role
Establishing Boundaries and Expectations
It’s important for parents to establish clear boundaries and expectations with their teens. This includes setting limits on things like curfew, time spent on social media, and other activities that may be allowed or not allowed in the home. It also means having conversations about topics such as drugs and alcohol, sex, and other potential dangers. Setting boundaries also provides a structure for teens, which can help them make better decisions when faced with difficult situations.
Providing Support
It’s critical for parents to provide emotional support during this challenging time of life. Teens may feel overwhelmed by school work or peer pressure, and it’s important for parents to be there to listen to their children without judging them or offering unsolicited advice. Parents should also strive to build trust with their teens by being honest and open with them about their own experiences as well as providing guidance when needed.
Being an Active Presence in Their Life
Parents should try to stay actively involved in their teen’s life by attending events such as school plays or sports games whenever possible. Showing up for these events gives teens the feeling of being supported and appreciated by their family members, which helps strengthen family bonds during this time of transition from childhood into adulthood. It also sends the message that what they do matters and is worth celebrating!
While it can be difficult for parents to determine what constitutes “normal” teenage behavior versus “concerning” teenage behavior—it isn’t impossible! By staying aware of both the normal developmental milestones associated with adolescence as well as any red flags that could indicate something more serious going on with your teen(s)—you will be able to provide them with the support they need during this pivotal life stage. With patience and understanding—parenting teenagers can be an incredibly rewarding experience!
