Its been nearly two years since I have lost my father and my mother has lost her soul mate. She now lives on her own and is extremely lonely. There are occasions she doesn’t even want to go into her home, because it’s way too quiet and empty. My sister and I have attempted to fill up a lot of the void, but she needs something we can’t offer her. My mother is a stunning 68 year old vivacious lady who looks much more like a 50 year old woman. She’s still brimming with life and vitality and desires somebody to spend the remainder of her life with. Not that any person could ever take my dads place, but she is seeking a male companion to take interest in her, so she at the very least doesn’t have to eat alone.
Getting together with new people and making good friends nowadays isn’t always simple, especially for an older person who doesn’t go out a great deal or visit places in which there are plenty of singles. I was thinking about having my mom become a member of an online dating agency. However, there are numerous dating sites online and I need to make certain I choose the best secure one to give her the perfect opportunity of making safe friends and meeting a compatible man who fits her profile.
Parent dating at any age is scary business. Eventually the individual she becomes seriously involved with will have to meet us kids. Despite the fact we are grown and have already left the nest, he’s going to have to be capable of comfortably interacting with us as well as the grandchildren. What happens if he doesn’t like kids or want any commitments which comes with having a family? I need circumstances to go easily for my mother, as well as the entire family, and for this person to fit in. It’s vitally important I have my mom consider an online dating site that only works with individuals who want and desire to be in the dating game with people who enjoy children.
An additional predicament to be concerned about is definitely the stranger danger fear! At least with online dating it provides my mom a less dangerous solution to get to know somebody without needing to connect with them face-to-face right away. Most reputable dating agencies keep members’ personal information and communication private. Her dating experience will be considerably more pleasurable knowing she can take her time prior to being required to physically come in contact with strangers. Assuming she agrees to meet someone in-person, it’s going to be in a very public area with plenty of other people around. I might even be lurking behind a tree observing to make certain every little thing goes smoothly.
My mom stated “I don’t wish to spend the remainder of my life being alone. No matter the amount of time I have still left on this earth, I would like it to be happy.” I really believe a dating agency is an ideal remedy for lonesomeness along with the greatest possibility of her obtaining a second chance at love. What do you think?
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Oh so sad. To loose your soul mate is the worst. I have what I call my second set of parents that this just happened to and she too hates to be home because it’s so quiet and lonely. I live a ways away because I moved for the first time in my life just 6 months before this happened (bad timing for sure) and so I can’t be with her much but I call often just to chat to fill up some time in her day. I so hope your Mom finds someone who needs her as much as she needs him. In the line of work I do I see this all the time. Matter of fact some Men have come right out and asked me if I knew of anyone that would come spend time with them. So their are Men out there looking to fill the void just like your Mom. I have never used or even checked out a dating site so sorry I have no advice to give on that. What I do know is that in our area there is a place called Senior Spectrum. A lot of elderly people spend a several days a week socializing with others their own age. They do all sorts of things like playing cards , learning some type of new project and even hold a dance several times a year and lots of luncheons and so on. Both Men and Women go their and hang out. They seem to love it. Maybe this would get her out of the house more and who knows she may just meet someone special and make lots of new friends. I know the place is busy all week Monday through Friday because I used to transport some of them to and from their who did not drive. You might want to try finding something similar in your area. If you have no idea of anything like it in your area try calling a local nursing home or local hospital. You would be surprised with the stuff they know. Here we have an agency that signs people up for fuel assistance and they are full of great resources or maybe the department of human services where people sign up for things like food stamps and stuff . They also have tons of information on programs for the elderly. Most people think that they are just for helping low income people get help with food and shelter but they actually do a lot of referrals for all kinds of different things that have nothing to do with financial situations. I myself if it were my Mom I think I would rather try finding a social environment that she would like and have fun than try the online dating thing because it just plan scares me to tell you the truth. I’d be like you lurking behind a tree. Of course that’s just my opinion and their is no right or wrong. Follow your heart and do what you think is in her best interest and things will all work out. sorry I rambled on so. I actually do referrals for people all day at work so I kind of get on a roll and don’t know when to stop lol If we lived in the same state I could set you up with a list of numbers and your mother would be so busy she wouldn’t have time to be lonely 🙂
Wow, I’ve never really thought about giving online dating a try – just heard too many horror stories. But I think the online dating communities are really evolving! Thanks for the review!
When my mother passed away from breast cancer, my father just fell apart. He became depressed and manic depressive. He never fully recovered and lived with me and then my sister. He passed away last year still missing our mom. If a surviving spouse can find happiness, I truly recommend going for it.